Recommending Vs. Providing Books
So I have this new fear of recommending books. At one point I was always super excited about recommending my latest love to everyone that I met. Then I started worrying about what would happen if they didn’t like it. As book bloggers we read lots and one bad book probably isn’t going to put you off from reading someone’s reviews (many differences of opinion, sure). However, my friends in real life don’t read as many books as we do, and I’m worried they will judge my taste more harshly if they don’t like something I recommended. I really want to be known as a person to get fantasy and sci-fi recommendations from, so I’m especially worried about losing that reputation with my real life bookish friends (I don’t have many of them to begin with either D:). Is the answer to stop recommending books at all?
No! I found a solution that eases my mind :D. I have lots of books I haven’t read in addition to books I love and want people to read. So instead of pushing one book on a friend looking for a new book to read, I invite them over to persure my shelves. Instead of recommending a book to them, I simply provide books for them to choose from and read. While they are looking through my shelves and picking down books they want to consider, I also pull books that they might like and make a little collection on the carpet. My visitor then generally goes through several rounds of culling the books that they picked down and that I picked down until there is one (or two) book left. This way, they pick their final book to read, so it’s not my fault if they don’t like it, haha. I get to encourage my friends to read books I think they might like, but the pressure is totally off if the book doesn’t work out :D. There is also usually a pile of “next time” books that they are looking forward to borrowing when they next want a book to read, so I just encouraged their book habit as well, mwahaha.
Do you worry about friends not liking books you recommend? Have you ever done the “home library” method of book lending/recommending? Do you have another strategy to get books into your less bookish friends’ hands?
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